The simple basics of parental spanking as presented in a poster.
This is actually part of a separate project I am working on for a original series, I have been working on for almost 6 months now.
*NOTE* For those who are not aware from actually reading my above AN this is NOT meant to be a guide for parents, (Alternatively this is not meant to be a guide for sexy spankings or S&M either...seriously guys, not all spankings are sexual.)
If you had read what I wrote, you would see that this is part of a propaganda poster for a series I am working on, Yes, the information on the poster is based off of what many parents follow and believe, (and in my personal opinion if you are going to spank, no matter if its for parental or sexy is a good reference and something to think about.)
but it is not meant for a how to guide of beating innocent children. and I do not condone senseless beating of children.
You are of course free to leave your comments for discussion, but I am neither reading them nor responding to them, but feel free to discuss your opinions, this is the internet after all, just try to be civil if you can.
(though I am not holding out much hope for that last part.)
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Real life children should never be spanked, of course, as you mention.
After all, I was spanked as a child, and look at how badly I turned out!
and don't be pissed about me right now i like you and you're art and you can draw whatever you want but i can't ever support hurting a child it's abuse! hurting someone is never good. not in any way!
There are 3 ways to rise a child:
-Restrictive: Oldschool parenting (rules, spanks, punishments)
-Unrestrictive: Neo-wave parenting (let the kid be free and experiment kinda stuff)
-Balanced: Mix of the two (in a well thought manner, not like a multi-personality disorder parent)
The best one is the balanced, and is followed by the restrictive.
Every educator, father and psichologist will tell you that is better to rise a kid like if he was in the army rather that giving him/her no limits.
I was spanked.
And believe me: I KNEW when I deserved it.
I know kids who never were spanked, and had a "free and unlimited growth".
Poor little bastards don't know how to shut up and can't understand that when life, fate and the world want to screw you, THEY SCREW YOU. They think they can do anything, because as kids they never had real consequences. They learned to ignore nagging and punishment, because, at the end of the day, if they violated their punishment, they only got punished again, disobeyed again and so on. And when life showed them real punishment for their lazyness and smartassness, they didn't knew how to handle it because they never experienced it.
T.L., D.R.:
Sometimes kids don't understand words or mental punishment. Sometimes the most animalistic approach is the only one that works (spanking).
And considering that, these Three C's are better that just giving the kid a spanking in the heat in the moment and without any explanation.
And if you have to choose between not spanking a kid that deserves it and not doing it...
DO IT.
As far as educators go, I've taken several child development classes and every teacher I've had has advised against physical punishment. Yes, you must enforce rules and hold children to certain expectations, but no you don't have to enforce them with violence.
On Spanking:
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That was AWESOME!!
Wish more people in the internet were like you.
Here is my contra-argument:
The Bobo Doll experiment was of simple raw violence. And yes, if you spank, or hit a kid for everything and anything, they are very likely to become abusers themselves.
And nobody here ever mentioned yelling. That is truly an agressive and ineffective way to treat a child. (just saying...)
But these 3 C's aren't like that. It's not: "Your kid is acting like a brat? Hit that f*cker and problem solved!"
Skinner made a whole psychological branch on the base of controling conducts: The Conductism. And even though I don't like it, it surely works.
Now, we're talking about kids here. Not babies, nor teenagers. This is intended for kids around 5 to 11, where they UNDERSTAND you, but don't CARE. They haven't yet completely developed empathy, simpathy or the social interest that makes us self-restrained (that's Freud's Super Self).
So, if you take a kid that is truly misbehaving, who has been called out by his/her parents many times and still doesn't respond, and in fact doesn't know or care for anything outside his/her tantrum, and you use the 3 C's (you explain what is going to happen calmly and respectfully, you spank him/her instead of beating him/her up, and finally acknowledge that he/she is forgiven), then the kid gets conditioned.
But not to anger and to violent responses to anything, but to the fact that he knows that if he crosses the line, he will be spanked, a punishment that sometimes works better than not getting candy or being locked in his room.
I'm not saying that this is for everyone and everything (In fact, I think spanking is a Final Resource), but I acknowledge it's usefulness, and as such, that there is a way, a time and a place to use it.
What do you think?